Real Help for Real Living: Change … I hate change

by Rev. Tony Marciano

We entered daylight savings time two weeks ago. I like it when daylight savings time ends in the fall; I get an extra hour of sleep. But on March 13, the clocks jumped ahead one hour at 2 a.m.

We lost an hour of sleep. I find it takes me about a week and a half to adjust every time the clocks move forward or backward. I don’t do well with change.

One thing I can tell you about change is change is here to stay. A movie that will show you how much the world has changed is “The King’s Speech.” The prince has to give a speech into a microphone, but he has a speech impediment and stutters.

Public speaking is the hardest thing he will ever do. Later in the movie his father explains that kings will use this method of instant communication (radio) to speak to their people. Today, we face the same changes in communications.

How many times have you heard people struggling with the idea of Facebook, Twitter, and social media? What happened to calling someone for an appointment? Does anyone even own an address book any more? Those days are over.

If you visit Disney World and go to the Magic Kingdom, you will see steam locomotives. It’s a wonderful trip back to yesteryear. But as one leader said, “The steam locomotives are never going to run again.” It’s hard for us to put those days behind us.

My father grew up in the Great Depression. Whenever anyone talked about the “good old days,” his immediate answer was “What good old days? They weren’t so good from my perspective.” I heard the stories of the Great Depression firsthand as he worked in a butcher shop for nothing. In exchange, the butcher gave him all the scraps of leftover meat on Saturday nights. That was the only meat his family had for the entire week.

Sometimes our look into the past is colored by what we wished it was rather than what it really was. Sometimes it wasn’t as good as we experienced, we just tend to color it in a way that makes it more palatable.

You and I can resist change, but that’s like standing in front of a hurricane and yelling “I will not be moved.”

You will be moved. Who knows what will happen in a few years; Facebook and Twitter may be replaced by something else. Once again, you and I will have to adjust and adapt.

We have a sign in the Charlotte Rescue Mission’s Dove’s Nest women’s division that says, “Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape.”

Many years ago, I was driving on a very high bridge. The vehicle I was in broke down at the very top. The driver pulled over to the side of the road and we waited for the tow truck. I noticed the bridge was bouncing up and down. When I questioned the bridge’s structural integrity, my friend said, “Relax. If the bridge did not bounce up and down, and was very rigid, it would snap. Because of its flexibility, it is able to endure the hundreds, if not thousands of cars that travel over it every single day.”

Thirty years later, that bridge is still standing.

Rev. Tony Marciano is executive director of the Charlotte Rescue Mission and a regular South Charlotte Weekly columnist. He is available to speak to your group. Call 704-334-4635, ext. 213, to schedule him.

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